Are you in a relationship with an entrepreneur? If you are, then there might be certain things that you should avoid saying in front of your partner. It’s no secret that entrepreneurs can turn out to be the perfect love partners. However, the path to their love and devotion is filled with hurdles. In order to reach the destination, you’ll have to crack the code. If you fail to, they can turn out to be the most narcissistic, unavailable, and selfish workaholics that you ever will come across. Either your life will be adventurous, filled with tons of joyful moments, or it will turn out to be entirely disastrous.
If you are currently in a relationship with an entrepreneur, you might already have an idea about how hard it is to communicate your needs with your partner.
In this blog post, we will take a brief look at how you should communicate with your entrepreneur partner. Alongside this, we will focus on the topics and phrases that you should avoid and the ones that you should say.
Brace yourselves; this is going to be a fun one.
Don’t say: How do you expect to find customers like that?
The first and one of the most important tips is to never be negative in front of entrepreneurs. They hate the negativity. They have little-to-no tolerance for such kinds of negative thoughts as they already are scared, worried, and have enough doubt of their own. They’ll hate it when you add in your negative thoughts in the mix. Be encouraging and supportive; if you have to be negative, make sure it’s constructive! However, if you are involved in a business together, it’s time to take off that “business-hat” and wear that beautiful and bright “Lover-hat” to be supportive.
Here’s what you should be saying instead:
How can I help you bring more customers/clients/businesses? Just let me know how to spread the word, and I will be more than happy to be a part of your journey.
Not only will you be showing your support all along the way, but you will also be boosting your partners’ confidence level.
Don’t say: Why have you been working all day?
It’s no secret that the life of entrepreneurs is tough. They have to give it they’re all. They have to invest a lot of their time to get their business up and running. You need to get used to it. Here’s what you should tell them instead:
You’ve been working really hard this week, let’s set aside some time so that you can relax and unwind.
The first step is to be clear with what it is that you need. Ask yourself: “What do I really need?” Whatever it is, you will need to make sure that you approach your partner with an open mind to their schedule. They will no doubt have things planned that they want to do. So it’s about negotiating a good compromise and working with them to fit in some ‘you’ time.
Don’t say: You’re making loads of money, we can afford <insert shiny thing here>!
The chances are that you might be able to afford that new luxurious item. However, you shouldn’t be a brat about it. It’s quite likely that your desire might be met with some resistance and could even leave a sour taste in their mouth. Your entrepreneur partner might not even be willing to spend money in such a case. Instead, he/she might be prompted to go in the reverse direction. Everything depends on how you approach the situation and making sure that you give them a logical reason as to why. Here’s how you could frame it:
This, right here, is something that’s really important for me because of X. I would be really grateful if you considered purchasing it for me.
Don’t make the mistake of proceeding with the purchase without the consent of your entrepreneur partner. Your relationship is way more important than any product or item.
Don’t say: Most businesses fail within the first five years. What makes yours different?
About more than 50% of businesses fail within their first five years, but there’s no need to be worried. You should have faith in your partner’s decisions. Don’t ever doubt your partner’s ability to deliver a great product or service or maybe handling a business. Instead, here’s how you should frame your thoughts of negativity and fear:
I love you and believe that you can achieve anything that you put your mind to. How best can I help support you?
The chances are that your partner doesn’t quite know how to ask for support or perhaps they don’t even think you’d want to help. That is not important. Instead, what’s important is that you need to let your partner know that you are always there to support them. Try it, and you’ll learn how well your offer of support will be received.
Don’t say: Let’s take a vacation
Want to go on a vacation? That’s great! Everyone needs a holiday; however, framing it like this will only put unnecessary and unintentional pressure on your entrepreneur partner. The chances are that your partner isn’t quite in the mood for vacation because maybe they’ve not planned for it. That’s because they are doing what they love and usually that requires a great deal of planning. This might be the reason why your partner might not be ready to take a break. Your partner may even think that taking a vacation could harm the business in some way. Be mindful about it.
Instead, here’s how you could frame your request:
Would you like to take a look at the calendar to set a date for our next vacation? It will be awesome to figure it out together.
Always include your partner in the planning and ask for suggestions. In most cases, your entrepreneur partner wouldn’t be looking for a two-three weeks hiatus. Instead, you should be open to suggestions and let your partner decide the kind of vacation that would be comfortable for both of you.
Don’t say: Aren’t you investing too much money in the business?
That’s one of the worst things that you can ever tell your partner. You have to remember that to grow a business, you not only have to invest time but often money as well. If your partner has a plan, then you should make sure that you know what their investment plan is in the business.
Most entrepreneurs adopt the mindset of “whatever it takes.” Most of them will do anything and everything to make their business a success and reach new heights. They’ll take major steps to make sure that their business is secure, which often includes re-investing in their business.
If you’re worried about the amount of money being reinvested you could say:
I’m really interested in knowing how this investment will boost the business?
This approach lets them know that you’re interested in how they intend to use the money. Knowledge of how they intend to use it should put your mind at ease. Remember, in business, there are always risks; hopefully, most of them are calculated ones.
Don’t say: Don’t be stressed all the time. Why can’t you just take some time off and relax?
Your partner didn’t begin their entrepreneurship journey to sit back and relax, well perhaps in the long run. The thing is, your partner probably loves to work and give 100% to achieving their goals. After the completion of one of the goals, they might take some time out to relax and celebrate the achievement. However, once that’s done, it’s time for your partner to move on to completing the next goal. If your partner’s stressing themselves out too much and you want to see them relax, here’s how you should frame it:
You look like you need a break, let’s go and do something nice like grab lunch to give you a chance to relax.
It’s important not to force them away from the problem for too long but to create enough of a ‘break’ to allow them to clear their head.
Don’t say: Will You Even Be Able to Survive Without Your Phone for Even an Hour?
In today’s digital era, it’s next-to-impossible for some people to survive without their favourite device, i.e., their smartphone. For entrepreneurs, an hour without their phone can turn out to be a death sentence. The real problem isn’t the phone itself; the thing that you are looking for is some attention. All you need to do is to take a closer look at how hard your partner is working.
When you find them away from their phone, you can use it as an opportunity to reconnect. You need to have a proper system in place and ask your partner to adhere to it. For instance, having a rule about no phones during dinner or after a certain time at night. You might even find that your partner relishes the opportunity to separate themselves from their phone but hasn’t felt they’ve been able to.
You should say:
I understand how important your phone is in order to keep your business up and running. However, I would love nothing more than you making an effort to lessen the use of phone while we are having some private time together.
Simple, right? All you need to do is to be supportive whenever your partner takes calls, texts or answers emails. If you don’t, you will be feeling disconnected. Show some positivity towards their decisions of receiving calls and answering emails. Make sure that you ask your partner nicely to respect the system that both of you put in place.
Living with an entrepreneur can be very difficult if you are not one yourself. The stresses that it can place on a relationship are intense but all it takes is a little situational awareness and a lot of patience.